Yes there is the word “period” in the title (see how I made period red, because blood is red, see? See? Genius!), because periods happen and we’re gonna talk about them! There is no shame in period talk, I mean for God’s sake’s it’s 2016…
Somehow it’s taboo to talk about everything related to periods, vaginas and female sexuality. It’s as if these things don’t exist. Well they do, so haters deal with it !
I remember when my ex boyfriend got angry with me for helping a (male) friend, whose girlfriend was having very painful menstrual cycle and wanted to know how to help out, ask if it’s normal and see if she should see a doctor…etc. See, my boyfriend at that time thought it’s inappropriate to talk about periods especially with males. I mean whyyyy?! Periods are a perfectly normal biological process that happens to most women every single month.
It’s shocking that we still live in a world where period talk is still shameful, but we can change that!
First of all, every woman experiences her menstrual cycle differently. It varies in many ways including the age when it starts, how long it lasts, how heavy (or not), to what it all ends, it’s different with each and every woman. There’s no norm or rules when it comes to your period. Mine for example, can be easy breezy, but sometimes I feel dementors are all around me sucking the life out of me! And yes, the cure is chocolate…
But honestly though, period pain is the worst, because it’s usually accompanied with low energy, bad mood and a general “I hate the world” feeling.
How to deal with it?
During these few days, I prefer to stay home (if possible, because mine starts on a weekend), in bed with a good book in hand. I drink a lot of water, (I feel it helps the flow) and a lot of warm liquids, such as tea. I love mint tea, especially freshly made (just boil a bunch of mint for 5-6 minutes and then drink it) because it helps reduce bloating. Ahhh, don’t get me started with the bloating! Seriously though, mint tea and water with a lemon wedge are great with bloating. I also try to stay away from sodas, because all the carbonation makes me feel even worse.
Also, even though all I crave is a burger as big as my head (and I have a pretty big head) with a ton of french fries, I feel my best when I eat home made food. Not necessarily healthy, I’ll indulge in some high calorie comfort food. Mashed potatoes are my favorite, and of course grilled cheese sandwiches. They’re warm and creamy, exactly what I need. I also love having soups like ramen, pho and thai curries. I’ll also eat chocolate and ice cream too, who are we kidding? Dark chocolate has been proven to be great for our health and to boost your mood. So stock up on some dark chocolate ladies. My fav is this one!
If my pain is extreme, usually the first day or two, I’ll heat a water bottle and put it on my lower back. A hot long shower will relax me and zen me out. Also hubby gets a lot of credit in these days for giving me much needed lower back massages… Rarely, if it’s really bad, I’ll take an Advil or two before bed if I’m feeling restless from the pain.
Pads or tampons?
Well, again, it’s a personal preference. But first, did you guys know there is a thing called Period Cup? The period cup my friends, is a tiny cup that you insert deep in you vajayjay which will collect all the “fluids”. I don’t know if I’ll ever try it, but I just heard about it recently and thought I’d share it with you. (PS: If you’ve ever tried it, let me know what you think!)
So, I grew up using pads, not until my late teens, did I start using tampons. Living in Lebanon, tampons were kinda taboo, “because they will take your virginity” *insert face palm*. Maybe because I used pads for so long, I feel more comfortable with them. Sometimes I feel tampons may cause leakage… Plus they also dry me out from the inside and kinda hurt…
How to clean?
Note from my gyno, don’t EVER use any product (other than those prescribed to you) down there. All those female wipes and intimate shower gels, are very bad for your vaginal health. They’re filled with chemicals that can actually cause problem. I also read an article about a woman who got ovarian cancer from using baby powder on her vagina, so watch out! You only have to shower and clean with warm water and nothing more. If you’ve been soul cycling and feel the need for a little extra cleaning down there, use a natural soap (maybe an olive oil-based) in the tiniest amount on the outer area only.
Gals, remember that our bodies are all unique and we experience things differently. Make sure to talk to your gyno if you have any problems (bleeding for too long, or too much or lack of bleeding altogether…), sometimes it’s just a hormonal imbalance but other times it can be more serious.
Let me know if you have any specific questions about how I deal with my period.